Muslim Women And Babywearing

As part of our posts this week, we have been creating space for diversity and Naomi has been
gathering the experiences of Muslim women and babywearing.

“O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes
that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most
righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.” – [49:13]

“And of His signs is the creation of the heavens and the earth and the diversity of your languages and
your colours. Indeed in that are signs for those of knowledge.” – [30:22]


“When I was pregnant with my first I couldn’t stand the thought of baby wearing. Don’t ask me why I
have no idea. My husband was the baby wearer. Stood in Mothercare for ages picking the right one.
I was all about the pushchair and pram spent ages picking the right one. When my daughter was
born it was the same. Only this time i
could afford a more expensive one which i did. By the time she was a year old I was ready to take a
sledge hammer to it. 5 years later when I had my 3rd and then my fourth I was all about the baby
wearing and loved it. It’s funny you ask about the Muslim women perspective because in the uk I
have a few Muslim friends who are pro baby wearers. But when I went to Dubai it was the women
who looked at me like I was backwards for baby wearing but I seen a couple of men trying not to
stare who from their faces I could tell were in awe. One man at the airport had a lot questions about
it and was asking through the female he was with”


“I had always wanted to baby wear, with my first born but I didn’t, a mixture of being a first time
mum, being scared of his cries and resulted me not daring to leave the house alone with him, he
hated the pram and would cry so much in it. He did it once and it was enough to put me off
leaving the house with him for 6 months. My second born Samiul opened the world of baby wearing
to me and I’ll forever be thankful. He came into this world on a glorious Day in May two days before
fasting. Latched minutes after being born. Once I got him home I practiced and practiced my
wrapping skills with him till I was confident with it. Day 8, Raheem, Samiul and I spent a day in the
park – my baby boy didn’t stir, the sound of my heartbeat lulling him to a blissful sleep. Baby
wearing gave me so much joy and a new lease of life. It solved two problems for me 1 my hands
were free to get one with life admin and my baby was within kissing distance to me. I was able to
interact and play with my eldest while my youngest snuggled with me. I was in mum heaven. Only
downside was silly comments I got, one was that back in the motherland (Bangladesh) babywearing
was seen as something poor uneducated women did who had to work ie women who sold bangles .
To that comment I responded how many times did you hear their babies cry? You call them
uneducated to me they far more in touch to what there baby needed and found the sweetest spot
that worked from them. And no, baby wearing does not make your baby needy – it builds a beautiful
strong relationship that allows your baby to flourish and grow.”


“I started babywearing with my first as my husband and I are very fond of the great outdoors and
popping our daughter in a sling was the easiest way for her to join us on our adventures. Fast
forward three years and our Ergobaby is still going strong for our second baby. Using a sling the
second time round has been even more crucial as it’s allowed me to carry on being able to do fun
things with my daughter. Our baby was going through a cot refusing phase about a month ago so I
just popped him in his sling for all his naps which worked wonderfully as it meant I wasn’t wasting
time trying to get him to sleep in his crib and it allowed him that to have that connection and
security with me that he needed at that particular phase in his life. I really love that babywearing is a
way to just have that closeness with your baby and allow them to just rest and relax against your
chest. Allowing your child to have that attachment to you and to feel secure is an amazing start for
them. It’s a reminder for us and for our babies that we are their home and their safe place. It’s also a
great way for us to check in with our baby, my husband really likes carrying our baby in the sling as
he’s at work all week so it’s a chance for baby and him to reconnect. This photo is of us at our
weekly forest school. Being able to put our baby in the sling means I can take my daughter to forest
school, something we all really value as we love being in nature. As our baby grows, we have put him
forward facing and he loves watching the trees swaying in the wind and sunlight dancing on the
leaves.”

“Tell your child repeatedly that you love them, tell them how gorgeous they are and how important
they are to you, hug them, it’s a sunnah to kiss your children.” Mufti Menk

A huge thank you to the ladies of the Hippie Muslim Mamas for sharing the babywearing love – Naomi

(Note from Rachael: for anyone who doesn’t know a Sunnah was described to me as something that Muslims follow, it’s the way of the Prophet Muhammad, the things he did, said, or intended to do. Part of how Muslims worship is by following his example via Sunnahs.)